The March/April 2001 issue of Ramah’s Voice (Volume 2, Number 2) opens with “What are Soul Ties?” The article describes sexual “soul ties” as the bond God intended to strengthen a lifelong marriage, and it says unhealthy ties from past relationships often surface as people examine the events around an abortion. The issue states that 70% of couples separate after an abortion, even when the abortion was chosen in hopes of preserving the relationship.
Sydna Massé writes about the relationship she calls “Alan,” the partner connected to her abortion. She describes how memories of that relationship surfaced in recovery, how she came to see her parents’ divorce and her own search for love as part of that story, and how she later broke that soul tie by destroying photos, tokens, and other reminders. She wrote that thoughts of the former relationship no longer haunted her marriage, and that sensory reminders such as aftershave, drinks, or music no longer brought “Alan” to mind.
Licensed marriage and family therapist Marnie C. Ferree is quoted on the slow work of breaking soul ties: refusing contact and fantasies, removing tangible reminders, and, in her own case, writing a goodbye letter she did not send, reading it aloud to God, and burning it. Later pages discuss confession and discretion, and a short piece titled “The Power of Prayer” recounts a conversation with a woman struggling to forgive a husband who had insisted she abort.
The Resource Corner in this issue promoted a recovery guide for leading Her Choice to Heal in a 9–12 week group format, along with a leader’s version that included forms, sample letters, and memorial-service materials.
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For help today, visit Abortion Recovery or the FAQs of the post-abortive woman.